Yes, I am a shady, devious, manipulative control freak. Yes, certain "admins" are probably angry and upset at me right now. Understandably. But they will soon see my logic.
Next Saturday, GaySocial are having their picnic. This is the perfect alibi / excuse to not attend the Green Park Meetup as I need to distance myself from the park Meetup for a week while tensions subside.
Interesting little plot twist. Hafyz checked the group today. He might have clocked the sudden "rebrand". LOL.
Yesterday, before carrying out Operation Queer Park Betrayal, I noticed that he was on the group.
Still an admin!!! 😱
Throughout the day, I have been checking the WhatsApp groups to see if I am still an admin. And the Meetup page to check that Lily has not deleted anything. No change anywhere. 👍
Yesterday, Lily made a veiled threat that she would hate to see what happened to the Instagram page happen to the Meetup page. Listen to their actions. Listen not to their words. I must be prepared for the possibility that this could happen. If it does happen, the worst possible scenario is that I would have to start up another group from scratch. And that I would have 1 out of 3 free slots on my Meetup organisers account to create something new and different.
Let those without sin cast the first stone. Let Lily do whatever she wishes. There is no logical reason for her to delete anything. She would only be deleting 2000 or so members that I have practically served up to her on a plate. Personally, I believe that Lily has far better things to do with her time than sit down and delete 2000 or so potential attendees of her park Meetup. That would be like shooting herself in the foot! Yes, the rebel admins might not have seen that one coming. And they might be reeling right now. But once the drama and anger subsides, they might start to perceive value in the fact that I have put Lily (and anyone else who wishes to) in charge of a 2000+ member group as a co-organiser. Whilst retaining myself as organiser of that group in name only. I have done the right thing by taking matters into my own hands.
The rebel admins might be debating and deciding their response among themselves. They were asking for this. If they wanted to strike out on their own. If they wanted to be organisers. They can get on with it. I have effectively given them the tools to do precisely that. They can either jump on the band wagon or sit on their hands and suck it up, as far as I am concerned.
Claire (who was the 1st to respond), surprisingly, appeared to agree with everything that I said.
[18:40, 31/07/2021] Claire: Fine. But in that case cancel the 3pm meet up in the bar on the 14th of August, that's the back stabbing that was mentioned we would avoid.
Lily & Sam did not agree with anything that I said. Clearly, my words have had a divisive effect on the 4 of them. A bunch of rogue vagabonds without a leader (previously Jenny) to make the executive decisions on their behalf.
Anna seemed indifferent. She was only interested in what happened with the Instagram.
[18:48, 31/07/2021] Anna: Before we get involved into any conversation at all I'd like to know what happened to the Instagram page
Their talk was riddled with contradictions.
For example, if they have "moved on", why would they be concerned about what happened with the Instagram? Is that not "water under the bridge"? Or only when it suits them?
[18:44, 31/07/2021] Lily: Claire, Anna, Sam, myself and Natasha have now moved on and are organising stuff so I am not sure why you'd have created the queer London meetup?
Jenny was concerned about me not telling them that she deleted the Instagram. Fair enough. There is no need to tell the rebel admins what happened to the Instagram. It is none of their business. As far as the rebel admins are concerned, the responsibility was between myself & Jenny acting jointly. They do not need to know that I hijacked the login details and Jenny performed the act of deleting. There is no reason to disclose this. Let them ponder upon that little mystery for themselves.
[19:46, 31/07/2021] Jenny: btw
Last night, when I took these drastic measures, I knew that there might be a bit of collateral and clearing up to do afterwards. But actually, the rebel admins were clearly drinking and responding impulsively. All that I needed to do was listen and let them complain / vent off.
[18:45, 31/07/2021] Lily: We would like you to please delete the Queer Meetup event on meetup.com please so we can create one managed by the new admins
[18:49, 31/07/2021] Sam: Hi Rory.
Well, I have. Too late. 🤷♂️
What will they do now? I highly doubt that they will have paid money to copyright their name, logo and branding. Enough to bring it into a legal arena. It is important to recognise that they are talking in the past tense here. There is nothing that I need to do apart from let them whine. The ball is in their court. If they have an issue, they can come back to me. I am their organiser now. I have appointed myself via the back door. We can certainly discuss the issue. But I think that they will shortly see the value in what I have set up for them on Meetup. Hopefully, they will knuckle down and start doing the actual job of running the events. And not creating soap opera dramas.
I have set out my score. I have laid the rules. I have stipulated the terms and conditions. At this point, there is nothing more that I need to say or do. Other than to sit back. Relax. And observe. Watch what happens. This is a social experiment. An exercise in human responses.
I need to sleep on this. I feel that Jenny does not need to explain or justify herself. Especially not to the Queer 20s/30s London Meetup group. My first thoughts are that it sounds desperate. I believe that Jenny is in a strong position. She has 7.5k members in her group. She does not need other admins. She has her own group and she can run it however she wishes. Last night's Little Ku event was a great success. She could certainly post this on her group alone. But I think that posting it in the Queer 20s/30s London Meetup group to garner support might sound desperate.
If she is receiving messages from confused people, she can always tell them privately.
[20:11, 01/08/2021] Jenny: What do you think?
Jenny says that she has lost many members and keeps receiving messages. She feels that she needs to do something now. True about the poll, though. She says that I am awesome. She is, too. She must give herself more credit. She is doing just fine! 🙌
"We cannot force someone to hear a message they are not ready to receive, but we must never underestimate the power of planting a seed." 🌱
The issue here was not with the decision that was made, but with those who did not respect her decision and her authority as main organiser. This is the distinction that needs to be made. She does not need to give anyone a reason for thinking that.
I know that it is important to have the facts out there, I believe in that, too, but that will happen anyway, without her needing to send out a statement. She could always post it in the message board and copy and paste it to anyone who asks, if it helps her. But I do not think that those WhatsApp buckets are any sort of Mecca for factual information.
Consider the target audience, focus on the people who are reaching out and contacting her, who want to know. Let them come to her!
I think that it is positive a lot of people have been messaging her. It shows that there are a lot of people who care and want to hear what is going on. But, I do not think that sending a statement out to those buckets will be conducive to the truth.
Concentrate on those who do contact her. Post something on the board and send them the link if it is easier. If they are genuinely interested in what she has to say, they will do their homework and make the effort to check the link for themselves.
Regarding the rebel admins, I set them up on the 2K Meetup page so that they could have their cake and eat it. Let them do whatever they want. Let them make a mess of things. If that is what they want! Let them trial, test and find out from experience. As Jenny has already done. They are amateurs. They will learn soon enough and probably arrive at the same conclusions as Jenny. She was trusting enough to share her knowledge and experience with them. They betrayed her trust. Instead of working cooperatively with the establishment, they have decided to strike out on their own. Good luck to them. They made that decision (in my opinion, a bad decision). Everything that I did yesterday was about ensuring that they take the consequences for that decision. Let them sort themselves out. Let them go their separate path. Jenny can continue with hers. Yes, they might have stolen a few members. But karma ALWAYS comes. The members make their own decisions. And she will continue accumulating new members (I have seen lots of joiners and event signups). She already have a 5.5K head start. It is only a numbers game. Integrity ALWAYS wins over! And she has the advantage of both. 🏔 💎
If the rebel group was set up specifically for the Green Park Meetup, let the park rebels have their picnic. The autumn and winter will come. People will feel cold. And what then? They will want to book venues. They will not be able to because they have been booked out by other groups. "Play it by ear and find somewhere in Soho" - no baby, never happens, it is feeble, poorly-organised and rarely works. As a result, people will feel frustrated, less likely want to attend the rebel group. They will come back to meet and mingle. And who will be laughing then? I think that Jenny does not need to do anything right now other than 1) concentrate on running her group, which she does so brilliantly, 2) sit back, relax and let everything else take care of itself. Watch the universe unfold 🔮
Jenny is in a strong position. She should not let anyone / anything else allow her to think otherwise!
By the way, if Jenny gets bother from any of the rebel admins, I will advise her to send them my way. I am their boss / Meetup organiser now! 😂
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