[18:49, 07/08/2021] Rory Duffy: I’m here where are you
I was feeling triggered enough without having to go upstairs into the top floor of Little Ku and see one of the admins, Claire, sitting there. I am not sure if she noticed me. I had a quick scoot around for Jenny, did not find her and then bolted back downstairs. One of the attendees found me perched on a stool by the front door and asked me if this is the Meetup. I said yes, but that I was waiting for Jenny. We ended up sat there for a good 45 minutes waiting for Jenny and me answering awkward questions about whether we hired the space, before we decided that it was time to head upstairs. Upstairs, there seemed to be loads of people who were not part of the Meetup. Anyway, I did my best at holding it together with Claire sat a few metres away (suffice to say, she was not part of the Meetup). At one point, she did look over at me and give me what looked like a death glare.
[19:37, 07/08/2021] Rory Duffy: She’s gone now
Thankfully, Claire upped and left at 19:37. I was able to carry on hosting Jenny's Meetup in peace. Throughout the course of the evening, I saw 3 of the guys from the rebel group, James, Tireni and Seyi. All 3 of them were perfectly friendly and understanding towards me. All of them were asking me if I was feeling OK after everything that happened on WhatsApp this week. There was no sign of hostility. Despite James being the one who opened that disastrous can of worms on Tuesday night and appeared to side with the admins (see tabbed). He said to me that he knew that he did not think that I was acting malicious. I said thank you. People behave much nicer to one another in person.
Jenny finally arrived. By then, the Meetup was in full swing and the room was packed. We spent some time in Little Ku (I introduced Jenny to the members of the Green Park Meetup who I knew, including Seyi). Later on we went to She Bar (1st time!). We had many conversations going over the events of the week and what we thought of the other admins.
04/08/2021, 20:41 - Tony: Ive been going to the group since the early years and know Jenny Rory and many of you personally. Joining this because people need to speak up.You "appreciate that Rory was trying to be nice” but banned him because he didnt rectify the favour he was trying to do you as quickly as you wanted? Why would anyone steal a logo after gifting a group as a favour?You people are too quick to accuse and its just bullying at this point.
In particular, there were those messages from Tony. We think that Tony totally nailed it. Jenny was angry at Jaron for how he responded. I told Jenny that Jaron was one of the people who reached out to me privately while this was happening. Although I gave him the courtesy of responding, I did not respond a 2nd time or reveal any of my thoughts. As it turned out, he was on the fence but ultimately sided with the admins. I wonder what the atmosphere will be like when we next cross paths.
[21:28, 03/08/2021] Jaron: Hey Rory, I want to apologize for jumping the gun there, and asking if you directly copied the group name and logo. I don’t know if you actually own that new group in the new place or have an arrangement with the new folks. I hope you folks all do have a new arrangement and that it isn’t some silly sabotage. I’ve met you in person a few times, I think you’re lovely and kind — so this’d be totally out of character for you!
Jenny wonders why everyone is accusing us of causing the drama when it is the admins who are causing the drama! She says that Lily has become the worst. She describes her as manipulative and controlling. I told Jenny how I had made Lily a co-organiser on the Meetup page. Lily reverted it back to how it was, moved all of the events and attendees over to the new page, used MY mailing list to signpost 2000 people to the new page and posted the links on the main group. Jenny was shocked that she used my mailing list. She thinks that Lily deliberately booked Retro Bar to spite her. Lily knew that she uses that venue for the M&M and it was a way to get back at her. I kept quiet about the fact that it was Rob who put that idea in her head.
07/08/2021, 08:07 - Jacek: Morning everyone despite from weather outside the window I hope you will have a fabulous day 😀
07/08/2021, 10:42 - Jacek: Where is that?
07/08/2021, 10:48 - Rob: Charing x
07/08/2021, 11:21 - Lily: I sprained my ankle so might not be able to come out today 😔 but like Rob said I think retro is a good option
[02/08/2021, 22:53:12] Anna: Thanks. I'm sorry this is happening. That really sucks
[20:53, 03/08/2021] James: @Anna what happened? Also why is Jenny in the Queer 20s/30s group? 🤔
[21:13, 03/08/2021] Anna: Yeah that's Rory's page
[03/08/2021, 23:20:58] Seyi: The drama never ends recently
[00:38, 04/08/2021] Lily: https://www.meetup.com/queer-london-20s-30s
[01:05, 04/08/2021] Justin: I literally was ready to go on my first meet on Green Park this weekend but now I have no idea what's going on xD
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