I should change my name (via deed poll) to Panorama: Exposing The Truth 🤪
Oh, the irony. The same person who is unaware of me defending her yesterday is now annoyed at me. I did her a favour. And now she is having a go at me! 🙄
[13:40, 14/07/2021] Yasmin: I don't know why you did that. I specifically told you not to.
Well, it is £9.99 🤷♂️
Who cares. Not worth stressing about it. Or getting into a petty argument over it.
I decided not to engage with the negative bits. But to withhold judgement, focus on the questions / calls-to-action and casually expose the facts (like the fact that the money could be refunded only to the original point of purchase).
There appeared to be an abdication of responsibility. Yasmin (who organised the cinema trip in the first place) stepped down. Since we had paid all of our monies into Yasmin's Monzo, it is only fair that the organiser (Yasmin) obtain the refund from the cinema and pay us back individually. Especially if she cancelled it to begin with.
I stepped up and arranged the refund with the cinema so that she did not have to do that part. Spending 2 phone calls, obtaining email confirmation and forwarding it to the group. That way everyone knows where they stand. I have already sent her my bank details and requested the money. So that is 1 less person needing to chase. I do not need to request the money a 2nd time. Presumably someone else might step up and offer to divvy out the monies as well. Teamwork. 💪
When Yasmin lashed out at me, I chose to remain silent until someone else backed me up. Then, when someone else did, all that I had to do was confirm that this is true. I would be surprised if the cinema did allow pay back to someone else's card. Not that I would take the money and run. But all that I had to do was quote the booking reference number and the 6 seat numbers.
Oh dear. I might say that I am not available next Wednesday. Since I have (so far) withheld my personal availability. There seems to be more stress than there is worth (her words, not mine).
Yet another example of how misunderstandings can happen via WhatsApp.
On the other hand, I should be thankful that this conversation is happening on a WhatsApp group. So that I am not having to recapitulate it through my own personal filter. Everyone can instantly see what the score is and where we all stand. Transparency.
[12:19, 11/07/2021] Sam L: Hey Rory, if you're still down for the cinema, were looking at 7pm wed for black widow
[15:52, 11/07/2021] Mary: Yes my bad
[19:42, 11/07/2021] Sam L: Woohoo!!! 🎉🎉🎉
[11:40, 14/07/2021] Yasmin: Hi. Did any of you go to the meetup on Saturday?
[12:07, 14/07/2021] Rory Duffy: Thanks, I will contact VUE now and let you know how I get on 👍
[12:28, 14/07/2021] Sam L: i was also at the meetup, so i guess I will have to self isolate too
[12:47, 14/07/2021] Mary: Please also cancel my ticket
[13:22, 14/07/2021] Mary: Alright
[13:42, 14/07/2021] Yasmin: I told you to cancel it and ask them to send the money to you. And you said 'will do'.
Rory spent the first few years of his life in an ice cave, carving out his palace of wonder. He's a bit of a love doll, but he who melts the ice shall have his reward.
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