How am I? Sick. HN has run off without paying his share of the council tax. Now he is trying to claim that he does not owe it. And he is bullying the landlord into giving him his deposit back. Oh dear. He is acting dishonestly. All that I can do is keep talking to him calmly. I have all of the evidence, all of the law on my side. The landlord is backing out because he feels threatened. It sickens me. The injustice of it.
I should not let it get to me. It is not worth the worry.
Yes. I should not have anything to worry about. But I do not like the way in which the situation is developing. HN is threatening legal action. But he has no jurisdiction.
I was feeling under pressure to not worry about it. I was not realising that I could not control the situation, but I could control how I responded to it. 28/03/21
Then let him.
The landlord is thinking of releasing his deposit. Because he cannot bear it.
That is not my problem, too.
He is threatening legal action against the landlord because he has his deposit. And the landlord will not release it until he has paid me back for the council tax that he owes me. But I will not get that council tax money back if the landlord releases his deposit. That is why it seems that HN is getting his way simply out of pure dishonesty. It is unfair. I have all of the facts and figures, all of the proof, all of the evidence, all of the justification. I feel that my landlord is responding more to an emotional bullying than an objective fact.
The council tax is not my problem. I must pay my share and the landlord will need to help if he is not keeping his deposit.
The landlord does need to help. It is my name on the council tax bill. So he is not legally obliged to pay his share. Although the landlord is under contract law, he is not convinced that contract law is enough. The landlord feels like giving in.
I may have to pay and forget it. You know that it is shit but it is not worth the stress. You have been there. Years ago. It was rubbish. But actually the stress that you caused yourself was worse!
It is unfair when the ones who are cheating and acting dishonestly get what they want. And the ones with reason do not.
This was my depression talking. In the end, he paid the landlord back and the landlord paid me back so I had nothing to worry about. I was "predicting" something that never came to be an actuality. 28/03/21
Yes but karma comes quick.
I believe in that, too. Things happen for a reason. I must try to not stress too much.
This is a classic situation that was out of my control. But I was ill-equipped to control my own response to it, or understand how to control my own emotions. The advice that I was receiving was sound and good, but perhaps did not break it down for me enough. Or maybe I simply needed more experience to understand how to care a little less. 28/03/21
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