At Stonehouse Court Hotel, I was bullied by the chefs and duty managers.
Bullying and mental health is a less taboo subject nowadays (10/03/21). Especially since lockdown. It would be interesting to see what recourses and measures Stonehouse Court Hotel has in place to protect its staff.
Scott was my C&B manager. He behaved in a grooming, flirtatious way towards me. For example, while I was serving the guests, he pulled off my apron. I went to the manager of the hotel and tearfully explained that his behaviour was making me feel uncomfortable.
When I found out that I received First Class honours for my degree, Scott likened it to "winning the egg and spoon race".
I used to work 3-4 weddings per week, Thursday-Sunday, 12-14 hour shifts. One day, after I had endured 12 hours of his constant taunting, I threw a table at him. I told him what I thought of him.
At the time, The advice that I received was that he is a miserable "rat". When the "rat" is cornered, they scratch and scratch away at other people. Because it has its own issues and insecurities.
A couple of times, I walked out of work because Scott's behaviour was eroding my mental health and self esteem, The hotel manager had a serious word with me. I tried to explain to the hotel manager that I was being bullied. The hotel manager said to me that if I could not control my emotions, I would be fired. I cried and said that I was "fucking insecure".
3 issues here:
The first chef with whom I worked ridiculed me because I was working on a buffet and I could not tell the difference between beef, lamb and pork. I am vegetarian.
Another chef bullied me on-and-off for several months. He left the hotel. A few years later, he came back. I was incensed that he had the nerve to come back. I said that he should not be here. I did not communicate with him. I tried to avoid him. This began to impact my work and have knock-on implications for the customers. The day manager (Olive) noticed. She was a kind lady. She asked me to communicate with the chef. Another waitress, Tina, who I got on well with, advised me to "face my demons" (unfortunately, this waitress also believed in "Common Sense").
Eventually, I was enforced to communicate with the chef in question. I went down to the kitchen to collect something to take to one of the guests. The chef said "make sure that this is the last time that you come in this kitchen". I relayed what the chef had said to the manager. The manager exploded. He shouted at me. He threatened to fire me. His face was red. He was spitting. He reduced me to tears. Crying my eyes out, I took the dishes to the customers. They saw me crying. They might have heard the shouting in the background.
I recall that the chef in question aspired to become head chef and another was appointed in his stead.
Stonehouse Court Hotel
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I have been recommended to acknowledge and process all that I have been though, where it all started from how it has affected me.